For most men, asking a woman out is one of the most difficult things imaginable. Only a select few feel little in the way of nerves when it comes time to approach the object of their affection. Indeed, even men who have vast experience in the dating scene, and those who are out of a long relationship, have the same trepidation as a teenager.
One important thing I should mention, is that guys need to ditch the whole ‘out of my league’ mentality. This attitude is what holds a lot of guys back. They go on a night out already defeated, and women can spot this negativity which will invariably have an adverse effect on your chances with them. If a woman sees that you think they are out of your league, then you most certainly are. Adopting the correct techniques will increase your chances exponentially.
Always be well-dressed, even if on a leisurely stroll to the store. Not every woman gets picked up in bars you know! Fact is, if you do spot someone you like in a coffee shop, or a shop, they will not respond well to your dirty sweater, or t-shirt with the funny slogan that is not really humorous at all. Of course, once in the social scene, dressing to impress is a prerequisite. Remember, women apparently look at a guys’ shoes first, so shine them up!
Once you approach the woman you like, be polite, but decisive. Do not walk up, and mumble something nervously. Simply introduce yourself firmly and clearly with a smile, and find out her name. Also, have some idea what you intend to talk to her about, this will lessen the chance of awkward silences. Now you have her attention, don’t forget to compliment her, but avoid going overboard. Most women are approached on numerous occasions during the course of a night, and the last thing they will warm to, is yet another smooth-talking Romeo. If you can, playfully make fun of her, in such a way as to make her laugh.
If things are going smoothly, push for her phone number at least. Don’t be expecting to get invited back to her place, you’ve known her about five minutes after all! If she likes your approach, it is very likely that she will give you her digits without you even having to ask, and, having done this, she is almost certainly willing to go out on a date when you do call. With the phone number secured, bid her farewell, leaving her hungry for more. Finally, if you are the nervous type, by all means attempt the above with one or two drinks, but under no circumstances, approach a woman when drunk. You will slur your words and look bad, and no woman will accept that. Be relaxed, and happy dating!
