Achieving Success on the FIRST DATE
It’s that day. The day you get that anxiety-inducing message from your chat mate saying: “Let’s meet!” You really want to make a good impression, but it has been months since you went out on a date and your flirting skills have become rusty. You’re a nervous wreck when going on a first date. You’re out of romantic first date ideas. What do you do?
Psyche Yourself!
Psyching doesn’t necessarily mean talking to yourself on what to do and what’s going to happen. Psyching means preparation. In this case, you are preparing yourself to be confident and unleash your irresistible side as you should when going on a first date. Begin with the physical aspect then move to psyching yourself mentally.
- Dress according to where your date will take you. Choose something that emphasizes your assets yet doesn’t look tacky.
- Smell good but not overpoweringly fragrant. Scents evoke good memories and stir emotions.
- For women, do not be too “made- up”. Wear simple makeup that hides flaws and accentuates your natural beauty.
- For men, do not disregard good hygiene. You can look rugged if it fits your personality but not too rugged that you look dirty.
- Although anyone can’t see it, wearing sexy underwear boosts your confidence and sensuality level a notch higher… and who knows, you might reveal it to your date after everything even when you’re just going on a first date!
- If you are shy and not spontaneous, prepare topics that you and your date can talk about. Note them in your head (don’t write them PLEASE). Avoid topics that can lead to conflict (ex. Politics, religious beliefs etc.)
- Before going on a first date, look at yourself in the mirror and smile. Tell yourself: “You are a beautiful creation of God. You are irresistible. You are desirable!”
Be Punctual - Don’t let your date wait. Punctuality means respecting your date.
Relax - Being comfortable makes your date feel comfortable too. Do not try to impress your date too much. Maybe you can start with your fun first date ideas.
Conversation MUSTs
- Compliment your date but do not compliment too much that you sound desperate. Complimenting means showing appreciation to your date. Compliment your date on different aspects; do not focus on just one (ex. physical features only). Compliment with respect, not with lust.
- Be interesting. Express yourself and but do not be too self-absorbed. Let your date speak as well.
- Ask questions. Make your date feel that you want to know them more. Value their opinions.
- Make your date laugh. It’s a great first date idea. Humor is sexy. Laughing releases feel good hormones that make you and your date feel more comfortable and excited with each other.
- Be attentive on what your date is saying and avoid doing things that might offend him or her (ex. staring at other men or women, checking your cell phone all the time, etc).
- Look into your date’s eyes. Show your date that you can be trusted and that you find him or her interesting.
Ending date #1
- Once again appreciate. Thank your date for the great time you had.
- Try to avoid getting “all the way” on the first date. Going on a first date is all about getting the person to be interested with you. Let him or her CRAVE for you. Do not rush.
If your date calls you or messages you for a second date then congratulations! If you don’t get a call, message or reply after going on a first date, then it’s not meant to be. Reevaluate what happened and check your mistakes then move on to your next date! Do not loathe in misery. Remember, if it’s not meant to happen, then there must be a good reason for it not to. Going on a first date successfully doesn’t necessarily mean having a next one, a successful first date entails you going out there, exploring your options and having fun!
