So you've been sending emails back and forth, getting to know each other and you feel that the woman you've met using your online dating service is someone you'd like to share a long-term relationship with and possibly even your life. But how do you get her to trust you? Women need to be able to trust a man before they'll let him into their lives. And trust is not an easy thing to come by. Or a quick one for that matter. You can learn to build this trust with simple conversations and by sharing bits of information that may seem insignificant to you, but are pretty big deals to her...
Share moments you experienced as a child. Things like being taught to ride a bicycle or your first traumatic experience swimming, visits to your grandparents or even the first time your mother caught you ditching school. The saying you won't know where you're going until you know where you're from has never been truer in this case. By telling your online dating match where you've been and come from, you're giving her the opportunity to contribute to where you're going. By opening up about your past, you're giving her room to share your future. If she knows you're serious about the future, she's more likely to open up to you and trust you.
Tell her about the things you used to love to do as a kid. Happy memories and funny stories keep these intimate conversations light and entertaining, and turn serious, significant and momentous milestones in your relationship into exciting and enjoyable moments to reminisce on.
While speaking about the past clues her in to your plans for the future, so does speaking about the present. Tell her about the people in your life, those who you love the most and spend a lot of time with. If you're serious about the relationship there's no better way than talking about the people whose opinions matter to you. Every woman wants to know her mate's friends and family – if she's going to be sharing her life with him, she's going to be sharing it with the people in his life too.
But always remember, whether you're talking about your past experiences, the things you loved to do and even the people you love, always ask her questions about her experiences in return. There's nothing more annoying than a pompous ass endlessly ranting about himself. Women are creatures who like to share by nature – so allow her the opportunity.
Molly Stewart
