Adult Film
Will it save your sex life or will it make matters worse?
Sex therapists often say that sex is like food, it gets better everyday. But for those who've done it for over a hundred times (with the same partner), sex can actually deteriorate. And it's not because the sex therapists are wrong, but it’s because nurturing a relationship can be a bit of a challenge. And when a lot of things go wrong or get dry, the sex life is sure to be affected.
For a lot of couples, sex saves them: from fighting, from breaking up, from having useless mellow dramatic conversations, and from doing something worse than wrong. But for some, it's the sex that ruins them; the lack of it, doing it with someone else, not doing it right, and not being able to satisfy the other.
And while others re-introduce sex into their relationship by having more of it, some just have the sex and include other paraphernalia to entice one another, i.e. sex toys, role playing, sexual experimentation, and pornography. They say it all works, but pornography is left for a thorough discussion and argumentation. Why, because it's the only sex tool where the man gets to see another woman while having sex with his partner.
In a way, pornography encourages sex. But the usual question is always thrown at many: Is the man still having sex with his woman, or is he (mentally) having sex with the porn star on the video? While some couples use pornography to tease each other, some get so hooked that they can't go through the process without having their eyes glued on the TV set. Some also worry that porn, as addicting as it can be, may never ever leave their sight. One may not want to have sex unless he or she gets to watch an adult film first.
It is suggested that couples should define their limits before hooking up with pornography. But how exactly is that possible if it's a well-known fact that adult films are addictive and as intoxicating as alcohol? What’s worse is when one party watches pornography too many times to pleasure himself and fails to perform later on when his partner is in the mood. Adult films surely jeopardize not just the sex life but also the relationship.
So the couple must define first –what role will the adult film take in their adult lives? Will it be for the purpose of solely enhancing their sex lives? Or will they allow each other to watch porno films alone when they feel like it?
Adult films should only be invited if the couple can handle it. If one has the tendency to get hooked on pornography then perhaps he can watch sexy movies with a story line, as an alternative. Some couples find adult movies with scenes other than pure sex even more arousing. Adult films may be used to just tease each other. Otherwise, there are other enriching sex tools that provide sexual arousal just as much as the imagination does.
Juliana Alano
