Mister's Libido Limbo
Women are very picky about men when dating. And what they are most concerned about is whether or not the guy they have their eyes on is not just after them for sex. And the irony of it all, once they’ve found the man with the purest interests at heart, they end up complaining about a sexless life later in the marriage or in a relationship. Whenever people discuss about having a low libido it’s always directed at the females; their menopause, hormonal fluctuations during menstrual period, mood swings, mellow dramatic moments, and what not. But the truth of the matter is, men suffer from having low sex drive as well, especially those who are committed to one woman and who strive hard to practice monogamy. Studies and testimonies show that one in three marriages have a non-sexual relationship, and that three out of ten unmarried couples who have been together for more than two years also have such issues.
So what exactly causes the man to suddenly stop becoming the sexual animal that he usually is? Well most women argue it’s boredom and lack of interest; that the wife is no longer as sexually attractive or that the girlfriend is not putting as much effort in bed to surprise her man. There are actually more factors to this problem. Psychological problems can bring about a low libido in men; stress from work, anxiety over family problems, and issues with the wife can cause decrease in desire for sex. Hormonal problems are also a part of it; low dopamine and testosterone levels that often happen to men can cause them to depart from the land of naughty every now and then. And smoking, drinking too much, or eating high carbohydrate and high cholesterol food all the time all contribute to the libido limbo.
It’s true for a lot of women that there’s nothing more frustrating and embarrassing than to have to beg to be touched by a man, when in dating women try so hard to resist a man’s grappling paws and demand for sex every damn second of the day. Well it’s never too late to bring him back to the sac. First of all, one must accept that living together or being together for a really long time will sometimes shift the nature of the couple’s bond from sexual to friendly. As long as the man does not stray from his partner to seek for company then the random sexless moments are perfectly normal. That is why activities like sports, date nights, projects, a business, and even fights are very helpful for a couple. These things create a change in a couple’s routine and therefore cause both the man and the woman to be excited, emotional, outraged, physically and mentally challenged, engrossed, and even scared. A man’s interest and intellect is therefore aroused.
Another way for a woman to seduce his man is to give him what he’s always wanted from the beginning. And it’s not a sexy lingerie or a lap dance. Those things may help a lot if they come in surprise, but what a man really wants is challenge and competition. If a woman shows that she has her own world and proves that a man can’t have him all the time, then that signals the man to make a move; if only to have the least bit of time with her. Nothing’s sexier to a man than a woman who’s very independent. And a man must have competition because he always wants to win and build his ego. When a man sees a woman who’s taken, he doesn’t easily back out from the race. And that’s the same in marriage. If the woman is always available and is completely his, it may not be such a turn on for him to have her as his mate night after night. So let him compete with time, with your girl friends, guy friends, kids if you have, work, and other important things. But be sure to always leave time for him when he finally asks for it.
If all else fails, it’s healthy to talk things out with one’s partner and be upfront about wanting to have more sex. Some couples seek for therapy or simple advice from the experts; whether it’s how to work a marriage out or what food to avoid taking to protect one’s libido, the point is to never give up or think something’s wrong with either one of you. Sex is better when you least expect it. So don’t give up. You might just get some spanking tonight.
Juliana Alano
