Virtual Sexual Tension
You've gotten to know someone you met online, you've exchanged quite a few messages, you've even flirted a little and now you're ready to take the next step. You want to heat things up a little by creating sexual tension and delving in a little virtual foreplay.
Sexual tension is essential if you want to take your relationship from your laptop to your linen. It adds the spark to a relationship, keeping things fun and interesting. From some people it comes naturally, for others not so much.
Generally in the real world, creating sexual tension is easy. Firstly, you play hard to get, by one day seeming super interested and the next cooling things down completely. But what are you doing on in the world of online dating if you're playing hard to get? Isn't the whole point of online dating to be "gotten"? Secondly, in the real world you could create sexual tension by teasing someone for instance by withholding a kiss when it's expected at a certain crucial moment. In online dating what are you going to do? Withhold your emoticons? Stop sending smileys? Come on, get real!
The way best way to create sexual tension online is by using sexual innuendos.
Sexual suggestions, hints and allusions create an image without ever spelling it out. It's this ambiguity, the sense of not ever knowing for sure what the other party is saying that is a major turn-on. You'll keep your online dating partner sexually intrigued with the uncertainty. But make sure you never explain things – nothing bursts the sexual tension bubble quicker, along with your chances of getting out of the "friend" category.
Also, you need to find a balance. Laying the sexual innuendo on too thick will give the impression that you're either a pervert or severely deprived or both. But lay it on too thin and you'll be labelled a virtual bore.
People, especially women, tend to be apprehensive at the first hint of any kind of sexual encounter – be virtual or physical. If you haven't yet met, this uneasiness could be intensified. When attempting to take your online relationship to the next level, you need to be as non-threatening as possible. And the only way you can really do this is by knowing the person you're trying to create the sexual tension with. You have to know what he or she is comfortable with before even attempting any kind of sexual advances.
But, most importantly, you need to understand that what works for one person may not necessarily work for another. So, good luck!
