Want to Cyber?
 | Ok, so you’re both bursting with sexual tension and think you’re ready to take it to the next level with your online dating match. But are you really ready for cybersex? Sure it can be a quick fix and a great way to have anonymous sex, but you’re not going to be doing it with a stranger. You’re going to be engaging in virtual coitus with someone you’re taken the time getting to know and with whom you’ve cultivated a relationship with. In her book, The Joys of Cybersex, Deborah Levine says: “Shame and embarrassment are removed from the equation –the paying field is level. You get a chance to find out who you are sexually, what you really need and desire, and to bring it back to your real-life relationships in a healthy way.” |
Take Venus Says’ quick quiz and find out if you’re really ready for cybersex with your online dating match by either answering YES or NO | |
| You’ve always been curious about cybersex (even though you’ve never done it before), but it was actually your match who suggested it. | The idea of talking dirty and describing your deepest fantasies scares you a little. |
| You and your match haven’t yet discussed what having cybersex would mean to both of you as individuals and what it would mean to your virtual relationship. | You want to compare it to real-world sex. |
| You’re not 100% comfortable with it yet, but you really want to please your online dating match. | You’re using cybersex with your online dating match as your “last resort” because you’re going through a really long dry spell and just want to get it over with. |
| You and your match haven’t yet discussed what you (both) are hoping to get out of your virtual coitus. | You’re younger than 18 years old. |
| You don’t think you could ever really let all your inhibitions go during cybersex because you’re afraid you’ll make a fool of yourself. | (see result below) |
 | RESULT: If you’ve answered Yes to more than three of the above answers then you should rethink cybersex and what it really means to you and your online dating match. (However, if you answered Yes to the last statement, why the hell are you taking this quiz in the first place?) Yes it’s an escape from the real world, yes it makes you feel good, but it also has consequences, just like sex in the real world. And after all your hard work trawling through profiles and finally finding someone you can relate to and share your innermost thoughts and dreams with, do you really want to ruin it with a 300-word dialogue? Probably not. Molly Stewart |
